Husband and Wife / Love and Marriage In this episode of Husband and Wife, Dr. John Lund, Marriage Counselor for HusbandandWife.com explains how people believe it is ok to criticize if it is “constructive” because it can change things for the better but, before you ever point out any problem you must do this FIRST… www.husbandandwife.com how to save a marriage save my marriage save your marriage convincing a spouse to save a marriage how to save my marriage save marriage how to save your marriage when you have been unfaithful ways to save a marriage marriage problems marriage counseling husband husband and wife marriage counseling videos marriage questions marriage help husband wife relationship marriage advice intimacy Christian marriage repair a marriage

drdeb.com Dr. Deb shares the secrets of a great marriage (1) do what zappos does – build good will by giving the benefit of the doubt even when you don’t feel like it; (2) walk on eggshells – don’t feel like you should say “everything” on your mind; it’s better to watch out for your partner’s feelings than your own; (3) when you’re talking, forget what you wanted to say – instead be a real listener; (4) be vulnerable – that means being able to give and accept love and to be wrong sometimes; (5) believe in your partner even when you don’t – when that belief comes from the heart, your partner will know you mean it. Get FREE advice at drdeb.com or sign up for Video Tips of the Week at http Brought to you by “DrDeb” at www.youtube.com

drdeb.com Dr. Deb shares the secrets of a great marriage (1) do what zappos does – build good will by giving the benefit of the doubt even when you don’t feel like it; (2) walk on eggshells – don’t feel like you should say “everything” on your mind; it’s better to watch out for your partner’s feelings than your own; (3) when you’re talking, forget what you wanted to say – instead be a real listener; (4) be vulnerable – that means being able to give and accept love and to be wrong sometimes; (5) believe in your partner even when you don’t – when that belief comes from the heart, your partner will know you mean it. Get FREE advice at drdeb.com or sign up for Video Tips of the Week at http Brought to you by “DrDeb” at www.youtube.com

Here’s the next video in our blog series “Dr. Dana Answers Your Questions.”   This week’s question is “Can a marriage be saved if only one of us doesn’t want a divorce/separation and is the only one willing to work at it to save it?” –> Please comment below the video to ask your own

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bit.ly In the middle of a workshop recently a pertinent question was asked about what creates the ideal relationship. We were asked to think of a relationship we had with something in the last week that in one’s mind was the ideal relationship, and to think of what it was about that relationship that made it ideal. A number of men in the group thought of their cars, tool sheds, families, workmates, old friends, even relationships with objects such as their television remote, recliner chair, or favorite pair of shoes. To each of these men, these things felt comfortable, and simple. The relationships they had with these people or objects was rewarding and easy to maintain. bit.ly

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A lot of married people (about 80 percent) in the process of a divorce are using a social network such as Facebook to cheat, says a survey of divorce attorneys. We’re coming across it more and more. One spouse connects online with someone they knew from school. The person is emotionally available and they start communicating

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How One Husband Convinced His Wife to Give Him a Second Chance

I can’t tell you how many readers write and ask, “My spouse doesn’t want to be married anymore. What can I do to stop my spouse from leaving?” These emails pain my heart because I have so little advice on the matter. That’s why I’m thrilled to bring you this guest post from Alex Blackwell, the creator of The Bridge Maker and author of the recently released Saying Yes to Change. It should be obvious that I’m a big fan of Alex and his writing. I blurbed the back of his book. I believe everyone should buy and read it. I’ll tell you why tomorrow. For now, here’s how Alex saved his marriage.

My marriage to Mary Beth has seen the extremes over the last 27 years. In 2003, it was about to end. My focus had become too much on myself and on what I needed. My wife and children were somewhere in the background. It took the shock of seeing the people I loved becoming so unhappy to startle me into changing.

Motivated to save our marriage, I enrolled in a spiritual and personal transformation seminar, BreakThrough. It was at this seminar I realized that if my heart was to connect with my wife’s heart, then it was up to me to make the connection. I had withheld my affection for too long. So, I dug in and worked hard to begin making the changes that our marriage needed.

Mary Beth’s heart was touched by the changes she was beginning to see and she gave me a second chance – and we haven’t looked back since.

Five Simple Words

I love this blog (thanks for having me Alisa!).  Most of the articles here obviously come from a wife’s perspective, so I’ve decided to write the rest of this article exclusively from a husband’s point of view.

Gentlemen – it’s never too late to save or improve your marriage. All it takes is the awareness to do it. So guys, it’s my pleasure to share a husband’s perspective, my perspective, and five simple words that may save your marriage, too.

Respect

Respect your wife. Give her the freedom to grow and build a life that doesn’t include you. Allow her to see the wonderful gifts inside of her and then celebrate as your wife shares these with the world. Respect the love she gives you. Soak it in. Let it cover you with its sweetness. Understand this is the best gift she can give anyone. Honor her gift with your love and fidelity – always.

Give

Give without expecting anything in return. Give because your heart says to give. Give her the best you have to offer. When she asks what’s on your mind, give her an honest answer. When she needs comfort, give her more than she expects. When she needs to lift her head to see her mistakes, give her a tender nudge and then get out of the way. Give her a safe place to cry and to be weak. Give her the chance to be whoever she wants to be.

Share

Share everything. From the last piece of cake to monitoring your children’s homework, take an active, equal role in the marriage. Resentment begins with a soft whisper before growing into a more demonstrative outburst. To share a life, the things in it must be shared too.

Enjoy

From the odd quarks to her radiance, and everything in between, enjoy your wife. Take her in. Watch as she sleeps, as she brushes her hair, as she sits next to you thumbing through a magazine. Watch her elegance, her tenderness and her expressions of joy, suspense, anger and fear. Bottle these moments in your mind and take them out whenever you want to enjoy a dose of her amazing beauty.

Persist

Managing finances, raising children, building a career, relocating, enduring a crisis, all contribute to the challenges every marriage faces. There’s only one way for marriages to thrive despite these circumstances: Persistence. Be persistent during the times when it feels like the light is being consumed by the dark; remain faithful and believe the good will eventually trump the bad; never give up when you feel like everything you are building is about to fall.

And what’s the source for this hope? Love.

Surrender to love.

Fall back into it and take your wife with you.

Alex Blackwell is the Founder of The BridgeMaker. His first book, Saying Yes to Change: 10 Timeless Life Lessons for Creating Positive Change is now available on Amazon. Connect with Alex on Facebook.

READERS: I neglected –one again — to pick a reader of the month in April. So here’s the deal. I have a $50 gift card to give away from Rental Car Choices. I will give it to one person who comments on this post by the end of the day Friday. Tell me: What are your marriage saving words? What words, qualities, and actions are important in saving a marriage and keeping it strong?

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1. Her Words Fall on Deaf Ears
2. 5 Tips For a Happy Marriage
3. 9 Deep Thoughts For a Peaceful Marriage

Learn more about Alisa’s book, the story of how she went from wishing her husband dead to falling back in love.

To find out how the book has changed lives click here.

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Here’s the next video in our blog series “Dr. Dana Answers Your Questions.” This week’s question is from Fred and he asks: “In attempting to save a marriage after an affair, how does one shut down the visions and never ending obsession of your partner with the other person?” –> Please comment below the video

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true-love-advice.com When your marriage is in crisis it is a very lonely time but you are not alone. You can save your marriage even if you are the only one who wants to. By putting these three tips into action you will make major headway in stopping your marriage from ending in divorce.